Your first dance at your wedding. For sure, it is not your “first dance” per se, but it means a lot to you and to many seeing you doing your first official dance as a couple. So, preparing for it should not be taken lightly.

Couples usually put in a lot of effort in preparing for this first dance. It is good news if your partner loves dancing, but it can be nerve-wracking if it has always been a struggle for you to dance to the rhythm. While some couples opt not to do this first dance, most still go with the tradition.

For months leading up to your wedding day, how do you prepare for your first dance? There are so many factors to consider, aside from hiring the best New York & Manhattan wedding band, and it can get confusing. And especially if your partner is not into dancing, it gets even more challenging.

To guide you through the process, here are some tips for you and your partner to best prep you up for your first wedding dance:

1. Dance to the tune that you both like

It just makes sense that you and your partner should enjoy the dance you will be doing. So, you must dance to a song that you both like. It should never be just a decision of one since you both will not enjoy the dance if the song choice is one-sided. You can both go through your playlists and check the songs that are played the most. Then you can further narrow down your options until you find the right song for your first dance.

2. Learn the basic stance

You can dance however you want for your first dance, but it also pays to learn the basics. Every couple dance must have a “leader” and “follower,” and whoever is the stronger dancer must be the “leader.” It isn’t always necessary that the male partner must be the “leader” (sexism at its best!) because skill should be the defining factor when it comes to allotting this role.

If you are the “leader,” you must place your right hand at the back of the left shoulder of your partner with your elbows slightly angled upward from the ground. If you are the “follower,” you must allow your partner’s right arm to lift your left arm, while putting your other hand on his/her shoulder.

You can practice this stance often until you both become natural at it. It may sound too easy, but, in fact, it takes a while to get better at being natural at this. It provides an excellent foundation for your dance, so practice this well.

Practice your wedding dance to get it perfect3. Learn the basic steps

Based on your song choice, you can figure out which step you should choose. Is it cha-cha, mambo, pasodoble, tango, or swing? If you are unsure as to what step suits your song choice, you can ask for advice from a dance instructor. It is crucial to get this right because you get to dance to the rhythm of your song choice. It may be natural for dancers, but for those who are not into dancing, these steps must be learned.

4. Practice your ending

The finale of your dance should not always end up with a dip. There are so many ways to end your dance, and you can be creative on this one. Make it memorable and most of all, picture-perfect.

It is crucial that you and your partner get to show your personalities on your first official dance as a couple, so personalize it and do not be afraid to be unique. If you are the dancer between the two of you, guide your partner and be patient with him/her. And if you are new to dancing in front of an audience, be willing to get out of your comfort zone to learn and practice dance.